Showing posts with label father. Show all posts
Showing posts with label father. Show all posts

Monday, May 16, 2011

Towards Lesser Crime In JB (13)

Rape (2)

A semi-paralysed Felda settler Romle Ariffin, 56, had pleaded guilty to offence he committed at his house in Felda Inas, Kulaijaya, on several occasions, between March 14 and April 4.

The wheelchair-bound man was sentenced to 17 years’ imprisonment and 10 strokes of the cane for raping his 15-year-old teenage daughter several times while tending to him.
The girl had been looking after him.

Deputy Public Prosecutor Jasmee Hameeza Jaafar prosecuted while the accused was not represented.

In passing judgment on April 19, 2011, the Johor Bahru Sessions Court judge Nu’aman Mahmud Zuhudi noted that the accused took advantage on his position and his own flesh and blood to satisfy his sexual urges.

Romle, who was charged under Section 376B of the Penal Code, should have protected his daughter instead of using her to fulfil his lust.

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Another father, a 26-year-old special school teacher in Pagoh was charged at the Sessions Court last October.

He was charged with raping his 4-year-old stepdaughter in Taman Pagoh Jaya, Johor, at 9pm on September  22.

The teacher was then taken to the magistrate's court where he was charged with assaulting his 28-year old wife by suffocating, slapping and punching her in the same house at 3am on March 25.

Deputy public prosecutor Ratinah Abu Bakar prosecuted while counsel Maniam K. Marappan represented the accused.

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 Muar Rapist Dad Gets 25 Years' Jail



An odd-job worker in Muar, Johor was found guilty of raping his daughter, then 17, since 2007.

The sessions court has imposed a 25-year jail term and 10 strokes for each offence and ordered the sentences to run concurrently from the date of arrest on Jan 21 this year.

He was found guilty of raping his daughter at a house in Lenga at 8am in 2007, at another house in Pagoh between midnight and 4am in August last year and at the same house at 4am in October last year.

Deputy public prosecutor Zairani Tugiran urged the court to impose a deterrent sentence on the father of three.

The court was earlier told that the victim had stayed at a boarding school but when she returned home, she was raped when her mother was at work in a factory or while she was asleep.

The court was also told the girl was warded in Muar Hospital for psychiatric observation because of depression.

Source: The Star - November 30, 2010
 

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Korean Wave Depression (Pact?)

A South Korean actor and singer, Park Yong Ha, 33, was found dead in his room by his mother after he apparently hanged himself with an electrical cord at his Nonhyun-dong, Seoul, home on Wednesday morning of June 30.

 

The evening prior to his death, on the 29th, Park missed a meeting with drama producers for his upcoming project "Love Song - Drama". 

His manager could not contact him and producers of "Love Song - Drama" are “in panic mode” because Park’s passing leaves them without a lead.

 

Park, after having debuted 15 years ago in youth shows like KBS’s 1995 "Love Blossoms in the Classroom" and 1996's "Start", he shot to fame with 2002’s "Winter Sonata", which made him a household name and a “Hallyu star” (Korean Wave Star). 

He rode the wave of Korean pop culture in Asia and won fans in Japan and other Asian countries.  Thus, he used that fame as a springboard to a singing career in Japan and releasing albums, where he enjoyed quite a lot of popularity.

 

He had a successful drama hit in 2008's "One Air", and totally stole viewers' heart in 2009’s.

Most recently, he had been chosen for the leading role in a Korean television drama, a remake of the high-profile popular 1996 Hong Kong film, "Comrades, Almost a Love Story" and shooting was set to begin in July. 

Park Yong-ha was cast alongside Yoon Eun-hye.

 

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KBS said Park spent his last moments on Tuesday night with his father, who is suffering from cancer. 

 

Around 12:40 am, he was with his father, massaging his father’s legs for a long while before leaving with the words: 'I'm sorry. I'm sorry.'

He then went into his room, where he was reportedly died from hanging, found by his mother in his room with a cell phone cord around his neck in the morning.

 

One producer said that they had seen Park occasionally in a down mood, but attributed it to news of Park’s father who recently moved back home from the hospital after his stomach cancer was deemed late-stage. 

A friend who met him a few months ago, had seen the depression in him and his father’s illness made things worse.

 

Park had said in an interview that he suffered from depression, which was exacerbated by prolonged promotional activities abroad.

In an interview last year while promoting his movie "The Scam" Park said that he had been suffering from insomnia for the past 10 years. 

He is rather sensitive that if something bothers him, he will not be able to sleep until it is resolved and is envious of people who can sleep well. 

Sleep is needed for him, for good mental health.

 

The parade of celebrity visits had begun, with stars coming to pay their respects to Park, whose body was transferred to a Kangnam hospital.

 

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Park Si Yeon on her “non-existence” in Family Outing

The actor's co-star, currently acting in "Coffee House", is reportedly to be so distraught to receive a “huge shock” from the news and “is in very bad condition.”

There’s concern she won’t be able to continue filming as she had just spoke with him on the phone the night before and he sounded normal.

He even had made plans to meet friends later in the day.








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One of his last call was reportedly with DBSK’s Hero Jaejoong (above right), who is currently recording in the U.S. with whom he’d grown closer.

He gave the latter advice about pursuing singer activities in Japan and they had agreed to have a drink together when Jaejoong he is back to Korea.

Park’s last twitter message was posted Saturday the 26th and was about the World Cup.
“We lost. But they did well. clap clap clap~ Everyone, let’s clap with warm hears for our national soccer team, who return with heavy steps. Good job!!”

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If confirmed of suicide, Park would be the latest of a number of entertainers to kill themselves.

His passing is a reminder of the recent string of celebrity suicides, from the deaths of actresses Lee Eun-ju in 2005 and Jeong Da-bin in 2007 to that of actor Ahn Jae-hwan in 2008 and “Boys Over Flowers” actress Jang Ja-yeon in 2009.
Top movie actor Choi Jin-young’s suicide was in March, nearly two years after his sister, actress, Choi Jin-sil, committed suicide in 2008. 

Choi Jin Shil rose to fame with a TV commercial, appearing as a newly wedded bride.

Her cute and smart image in the commercial was an instant success.
She soon became a a household name and her popularity was widely considered due to her friendly and approachable demeanour rather than the statuesque looks of her contemporaries.
Her popularity made her a South Korean actress appearing in various soap operas and movies, whether comical or sad, in most part were characters the audience could easily relate to.

They were all successful, notably 1990 "My Love My Bride" and 1992 "Jealousy and Promise".

Her growing popularity opened up her past history of poverty stricken teenage years became known to the public and this added to her popularity as a success story of hard work coming to fruition.
Her personal image along with the roles she played won her the title ‘People’s star’.

Her popularity stumbled twice during her career.
In 1994, her manager Bae Byung Soo was stabbed to death by her driver and the second was her divorce to the baseball player Cho Sung Min in September 2004.
Both times she made her way into the hearts of her fans by giving fervent performances in her roles. 1997 "You and I" and 2005 "My Rosy Life".

In her last TV drama 2008, coincidentally titled, "Last Scandal", she played the character of a divorcee who wins the hearts of 2 handsome successful brothers and eventually marries one of them.
The show was a huge success and a new word ‘Joomarella’, a combination of the words ajooma (middle aged woman) and Cinderella came to popular use to describe a divorcee who regains love and a happy life.

Pressure was mounting on her to be always at the top of stardom and the confidence in her as a single mother.

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In late September 2008, actor Ahn Jae Hwan, one of her best friend’s husband, committed suicide due to failing business and high volume of debt and Choi was rumoured to have lent a large sum of money to Ahn which spread rapidly through online reports and blogs.

It was a shock to Choi. The police reported the rumour to be false.
On the day of Choi’s death, all 3 major TV stations spent a third of their news hour on covering the story.
4 days after her death, a representative at the National Assembly suggested a new law to prevent ‘cyber-insulting’ which for a short period had the nick name of ‘Choi Jin Shil Law’.

Choi Jin Shil committed suicide October 2, 2008 at the age of 39.

Although there have been reports of Choi’s suffering from depression since her divorce with Cho, this rumour was favoured and as the key factor leading up to her suicide.



Korean actor Choi Jin-young

After the actress-sister, Choi Jin-shil's suicide, Korean actor Choi Jin-young, 39, was found dead on March 29 in an apparent suicide too.

The actor was battling depression and sunk into a prolonged spell following his sister’s death.

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Lee Eun-Joo


Lee Eun-ju, who was born on 22 December 1980, studied piano for much of her youth, but found work as a model. 

Later, she was offered roles in various TV dramas. 
Her first film debut was in 1999 "Rainbow Trout". Her first lead role 2000 "Virgin Stripped Bare By Her Bachelors", where she gave one of the most memorable performances in all Hong Kong films. 
However, her later career was a flop at the box-office, plus a key role in the record-breaking Korean War film "Taeguki".
In late 2004 "The Scarlett Letter" in which this was to be her final role, it was screened as the Closing Film at the 2004 Pusan International Film Festival. 

Tragically Lee Eun-ju committed suicide on 22 February 2005 at her apartment in Bundang, Seongnam, a few days after her graduation from Dankook University. 
She had been suffering from depression for a year and had sought treatment at a hospital but her family blamed the suicide on severe bouts of depression, mental illness and insomia due to the nude scene she had done in "The Scarlet Letter". 
She had apparently tried to slit her wrist before hanging herself.

She left a suicide note scrawled in blood, in which she wrote, "Mom, I am sorry and I love you."
A separate note said, "I wanted to do too much. Even though I live, I'm not really alive. I don't want anyone to be disappointed. It's nice having money... I wanted to make money." 

The news of her death prompted a massive outpouring grief of fellow actors and filmmakers. 
She is remembered for her talent, intelligence and passion that made her stand out among the actress of her generations.
Hundreds of her fellow actors and entertainers attended her funeral.


Lee Eun-ju's friends and colleagues have held memorials for her every year since her passing. She was cremated and enshrined in a crypt at Goyang.

Lee Eun-ju's Suicide Note: (translated)

"Mom, I love you. I'll protect you. 


I wanted to work so much. I wasn't doing work on purpose; 
i couldnt, 
but the ppl around me couldnt recognize and understand it...
how could they know how i feel if they're not me..."

"Mom, when i think about it, i know i have to live, 

but even when im living i'm not. I'll protect you. 
I'll always protect you right next to you. 


I didn't want to hate anyone. I tried to handle it myself..."


"No..I have no feelings...I'm not me..
I wanted to go back a year from now. 
I prayed everyday, but it was just a foolish wanting.
If it was a year ago, I'd be able to live like me."

"I'm relieved that I saw dad's face 2 days ago.

Money is not everything, but it's such a hard life because of it. 

I don't like money either."

"My one and only big brother, 

you were way better and talented than me 
but I'm sorry because you didn't get the love. 
I bet there were many disappointing times because of me. 


I wanted to go to many places and wanted to do many things. 
I wanted to eat many things too, 
but living in a house with the family..living in 1 house, 
I thought we could've lived happily by doing what we wanted to do 
and going wherever we wanted to go.."

"The person I love the most, mom, 

I wanted to make you happy...I'll protect you."

"The last talk on the phone, big sis, 

I was thankful, sorry, and it was hard. 


The person that told me today's the day. 
I thank you.

The people that loved me when I couldn't do anything, 
I wanted to meet and laugh together, 
I didn't avoid on purpose. 


I know it is important, 
but I'm sorry I cant agree anymore." ;(**








Sunday, April 18, 2010

Toddler Exploited

The pony-tailed man's gaze was kind of full of satisfactions as he studiously stared and smiled at the only 'panadol extra'-like pill placed in a snugly fit plastic.

What's so special about panadol? I asked myself, being more of a supplement believer.
Once he realised I was watching his movement in the MRT, he put the pill away, stuffed carefully into the zipper compartment of his carrier bag which I assumed was full of toddler's needs.
Yes, he brought along a very cheerful girl, who will return a bright smile with every MRT passengers' looks.

An unsightly more than 50 years old Malay man, haggard looking in tight jeans with a girl around 2 years of age, frankly speaking, I do not trust what was before my eyes at 9pm last night.
He sang with the toddler the latest hit song of an Indonesian band, and surprisingly, the girl sang well even with her limited vocab, jumping around to the music from his handphone.
As the announcement, 'Next station, Bugis.' was heard, he stopped the music, sent an SMS and turned around facing the glass window.

Discreetly, he took out the only pill, slipped it carefully under his 2cm wristband on his left hand.
Many questions swirled in my mind. Wasn't it panadol? Was that drug? What was I supposed to do then?

When the train reached Bugis, he carried up the girl, and she sat nicely on the wristband while in his arm.
"Kiss daddy," he asked the girl before alighting from the train.

Now, she's his baby girl, but where's the mother?
How on earth can she trust her small girl in the hand of a very untrustworthy looking 'father'?
Was the girl's presence a camouflage to his illegal drug activity?

He's abusing his child. He's abusing her presence. He's...
I was very frustrated with the scene. Helpless.           

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

The Taxi Story - His Yearning Heart Had Spoken

"Kakak sihat?" The taxi driver warm up to his passenger - me.

"Alhamdulillaah." I answered as I propered myself at the rear sit.

"Kakak selamat?" He continued.

"Alhamdulillaah selamat." A rare question asked - I answered anyway.

"Abang?" What's this? I asked myself.

"Selamat juga. Kenapa?" I had to ask him of his queer question.

"Kakak selamat, Abang selamat, Kassim selamat, saya tak selamat." What's exactly in the driver's mind?

"Kenapa doa macam gitu?" I was surprised with his statement.

"Betul Kak... Kakak selamat, Abang selamat, Kassim selamat tapi saya tak selamat." The taxi driver tried to convince me.

"Apa pun yang kita cakap, itu doa kita. Malaikat aminkan apa yang keluar dari mulut kita.Tak kisah cakap main-main ke cakap betul-betul. Malaikat tak tau gurau tu apa. Yang dia tau, dia bawak apa yang kita cakap pada Tuhan. Kita tunggulah bila cakap kita jadi betul. Itu orang cakap secara kebetulan." I needed to correct his choice of words that came out of his mouth.

"Kak, Kakak selamat, Abang selamat, Kassim selamat, saya juga selamat Kak..." He recorrected his statement.

"Alhamdulillaah semua selamat. Amin." I was relieved at last.



"Kak, saya sebenarnya engineer - kerja kat Australia. Kakak pernah dengar cari gali minyak kat tengah laut?" The man sobered with his words.

"Oil-rig engineer kat Australia kenapa taxi-driver kat Johor?" I was surprised with the 360 degrees transformation.

"Saya tinggalkan anak bini kat kampung. Suruh kawan tolong tengok diorang kat rumah. Tau-tau dia nak bini saya jadi orang-rumah dia." He started to open up.

"Lepas tu?" I was curious with his story.

"Lepas tu, saya lepaskan kerja. Saya kerja jauh sebab nak cari lebih untuk family. Sekarang family tak lengkap - cuma anak-anak saja."

"Kat Australia kan banyak perempuan cantik. Kawin satu aje orang sana - sayang kerja..." l tried to lift his spirit.


"Saya jarang jalan-jalan kat darat, selalu ingat bini. Saya sayang bini saya kak, dia baik. Sebab itu kawan saya pun sayang dia." The man started to falter with his words.

"Bini dah tak ada. Focus kerjalah." I lifted his spirit higher.

"Kak, Kakak cantik, Abang sayang. Anak-anak saya cantik Kak, saya sayang. Bini saya cantik, saya tak boleh sayang. Tapi saya tau saya tetap juga sayang. Anak-anak saya cantik kak. Saya sayang. Saya tak mau suruh orang jaga. Biar saya jaga sendiri. Saya tak nak diorang hilang macam bini saya hilang." His words start to pierce my heart. I was looking at him through the mirror - he's avoiding eye contact - He looked down occasionally...

"Berapa umur anak?"

"15 dengan 19. Diorang cantik Kak. Dah 8 tahun saya jaga sendiri kat kampung..." A loving father who talk affectionately of his daughters - A man with a very big loving heart who gave away his heart to his ex-wife only to be hijacked by his best friend.

He's suffocating...

He's yearning for the feeling not returned...

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Finally I reached my destination before the taxi driver could finish his sentence.
As I paid my fare, he turned to me and I saw his watery red eyes.
I had to get out of his life-story fast.

"Keep the change." I hurried away from him...
       

Friday, December 25, 2009

Filial Piety


Miss Yeo, in her 20's clapped hard for her father.

As tears flowed, her happiness soared.
Her father had finally put away the resentment baggage he had towards his parents - these past 50 years - for pulling him out of school when he was in primary 2.

Being the eldest, he had to help feed the family of 8.
First time in Mr Yeo's life, he volunteered in broken Singlish to share his new-found life with full-house audience in one of the seminar room in Spring Singapore building.
With excitement, he related his 'blind spot' that made him a passive, revengeful and resigned to fate person.

A reborn 60 year old Mr Yeo had found the purpose in cherishing his life with all positive values.

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A 29 year old Miss Cerissa, had made both parents attended her graduation.

She had not been in talking terms with her father for the last 19 years, when she found out that he had a girlfriend.
Her mother struggled in bringing her up.
She resented the mother too, for being the cause of this mess in her life.

Her life had become more and more messier each passing day until she found out how to rid the 'blind spot' that had been hurdling her life.
Now, both parents sat side by side, are talking to each other.

The father had flown to Singapore all the way from China, where he's been posted to, to be with the dear daughter witnessing the transformation in her, the transformation she brought about to her parents and most importantly, the miracle changes she made towards the family.

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A contractor, in his late 30s, forced himself forgoing his ego, shook his father's hand, hug each other - both men in tears.

He had not talked to his father since he was in Secondary 2 - from the day he gave his father a heavy blow on the face - for taking his newly-made bamboo-saving safe for his coins, out of his room.
He did not give a second thought about punching his old man, a habitual gambler, in front of his gambling friends.
His father had too often 'took' his hard-earned money. He had been self-supporting his schooling as long as he could remember.

Once a year, Aidilfitri, he would visit his mother - that's it - without acknowledging his father's existence in the same house.
He thought of ostracising himself from the parent's house once the mother is no more living.

But the obstacles he's facing in his business were mounting.
Every opportunities within hand-reach were all too  impossible to grab. Even opportunities that had knocked on his door would slipped out. What went very wrong in life?

He's an observant muslim, a responsible head of the family and an honest business proprietor.
When bankruptcy was about to be on his face, a saviour came to his rescue - FILIAL PIETY is the keyword to one's success in complete living.

For weeks, he contemplated about acknowledging the gambler father he has, but then, he has only one father in his life.

As these 2 men were in each others' hands, the real story unfold.

The father, with great pride, was showing to his friends the self-made safe made by his son - without any hint to dig into the saved coins.

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The above stories and many more, about priortising parents had brought tears to many - reflecting own resentment at one time or another.

Immediate soul-searching needed when hiccups and stumbles in life are just too unbearable to shoulder.
Both seminars and workshops, held differently by different organisers in Singapore and Johore, were attended by hundreds participants and fees were in thousands.

These are all Universal Law. Human affections breed responsible persons, breed successful lives.
The speaker whom the hundred Singaporeans learn about filial piety is a Mr Singh, from India, who is now travelling round the world preaching the same traditional filial piety topic.

The motivator who talked to 500 attendees in Johore is a very successful businessman who travelled the world to learn more about Law of Nature. He had bridged many drifted parent-child relationships and bonded many families.

These are basics in religion.
As I recalled the sessions, I was looking around searching any familiar ustaz or ustazah's faces, I did not recognise any.

An open plea to all asatizah: Stand on a different platform - be creative to impart traditional living knowledge without being stuck to tradition.
You hold some of the keys in creating society not to be known ONLY for the wrong reason.

Learn from all people. Not selective individuals.

All the world's a stage. Men and women are mere players.